I’m raising future leaders.
Daily, I am working to elevate my children’s EQ and critical thinking skills.
Why?
To prepare them for a world that will try to conjure fear in their hearts and minds.
When my clients process their anxiety with me, my first question for them is: “What is the evidence?”
I had to ask my kids this same question this morning when the smoke alarm went off.
They ran downstairs to the kitchen with more panic than puzzlement.
They felt something was wrong instead of seeking out what could be wrong.
I explained to them that the smoke was from the frying pan and that the hooded vent failed to capture all the smoke.
My daughter thought there was a fire and asked me how I remained so calm.
I told her because there wasn’t any real danger.
I also asked her, if I had not been, would that have made the situation better or worse?
Often, we can be so problem-focused that we create more of an issue than there needs to be.
As I raise future leaders, I want to teach them to be solution-focused.
To help them manage their emotions in healthy and productive ways so they don’t cause dysregulation in others.
I’ve seen one too many times how a dysregulated leader (partner or parent) negatively impacts their team (relationship, children).
It’s not that leaders aren’t fearless.
It’s that they learn to press pause on fear long enough to investigate the truth.