I never encourage people to stay where they are being harmed.
So if you can leave, make that move!
However, if you can’t immediately do so, or you’re in the hallway waiting for the next door to open, here’s what you can do:
1. Elevate your emotional intelligence even if that of your manager is low. You don’t have to lower yours. You can still lead without the title.
High emotional intelligence isn’t reserved for people managers. Your actions and attitude can inspire others, regardless of your position.
Use your voice. Speak up to be added to projects and do your research on professional development courses or conferences you’d like to participate in.🗣️
2. Advocating for yourself is crucial in any career. Don’t be afraid to express your interest.
Researching and being well-prepared shows your commitment and dedication to your growth, which can be appreciated by your superiors…or recruiters.
3. Avoid the gossip. Create your boundaries and maintain them.
Office gossip can be tempting, but it rarely leads to anything positive. Dodging the dissing will maintain your integrity and build a reputation as someone who is trustworthy and professional. And when you leave, you can leave with your hands and mind clean.
4. Journal to release and document to defend.
Keeping a journal can be a powerful tool for managing stress and documenting your experiences at work. Use it to release your emotions. It can also serve as a record of your accomplishments and interactions, which can be handy when it comes time for performance reviews or addressing workplace issues.
5. Find a therapist if you can—process work issues outside of work.
Work-related stress and challenges can take a toll on your mental well-being. Seeking therapy is a proactive step to ensure you have a safe and confidential space to discuss your concerns, manage stress, and develop coping strategies.
I tell all my clients to prioritize their well-being over everything. And that they have more power and agency than they know.
Be strategic with how you practice self-care around work. Toxic workplaces can really do a number on you. Know your limits.