Good leaders know how to self-regulate.
Feeling angry is okay.
Whatโs not okay:
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๐๐ฏ๐ด๐ถ๐ญ๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ
๐๐ฐ๐ต ๐ญ๐ช๐ด๐ต๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ
๐๐ข๐ด๐ญ๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ
๐๐ด๐ด๐ข๐ถ๐ญ๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ
The actions and reactions made out of anger contribute to bad leadership more than the feeling itself.
To positively influence your organization, consider taking intentional steps to control your reactions and regulate your emotions in challenging situations.
You can achieve it with a simple practice I call the 3 Aโs:
1. Awareness:
Practice the Pause to allow yourself to be in the present moment to name the emotion and identify how it shows up in your body (clenched fists, tightened jaw, tense muscles).
Naming the feeling helps to externalize it and not to identify with it, i.e., I FEEL angry vs. I AM angry.
Remember, an emotion is what you feel, not who you are.
2. Assessment:
Consider what brought it on the emotion.
Does the situation remind you of a previous experience that made you feel disrespected?
Are you agitated because you missed lunch and are feeling hungry?
Assessing the root cause or trigger can help you connect the dots and minimize overreacting.
3. Action:
After taking time to pause, name your feelings, and identify what brought them on, you will now have the choice to respond with more clarity and control.
Choosing to address the situation in a collected manner not only builds trust and safety for your employees but also models for them how to respond to situations in an emotionally intelligent way.